Media Release
Connecting with the kids over Christmas
30 November 2006
Minister for Human Services, The Hon. Joe Hockey MP, is calling on all separated parents to do some forward planning before Christmas so that wherever possible children spend time with both parents during the holidays.
“Christmas should be a great time of year for kids but the holidays can end up being emotionally difficult for separated families,” Minister Hockey said.
“It’s important for children that both their parents – if possible – are given a chance to be involved in their holiday activities.”
“I ask separated parents to put the interests of their children ahead of any ongoing relationship issues they might have and come to workable arrangements that allow their children to spend time with both parents,” Minister Hockey said.
The Child Support Agency has published a range of free booklets which separated families may find helpful when planning parenting time over the Christmas period. Parents can also access help from Family Relationship Centres to come to a workable arrangement. CSA can assist with connecting parents to this support.
Me my kids and my Ex is full of tips and hints on how to have a better relationship with your ex and includes a handy pull-out schedule so parents can sit down together and make a plan for their children.
Another booklet in the series Me and my Kids helps parents build on their relationship with their children after separation. It also includes information on parenting from a distance; what to do when your kids come to stay; understanding your children’s behaviour, how to get on with the ex; and parenting together while apart.
Some tips on connecting with the kids over the holidays:
- Let your child know it is okay for them to visit the other parent. Make it something they look forward to.
- Plan ahead with clear arrangements for collecting or returning the kids and stick to them.
- Make your home festive and welcoming- display family photos, put up a tree the kids can help to decorate.
- Don’t forget to include the grandparents, aunts, uncles, cousins and other family members and friends in any celebrations and activities.
- Take the kids to free holiday activities in the lead up to Christmas.
- If you can’t be there on Christmas Day schedule a time to call so your children know when they will speak with you.
“I urge any parent who is having trouble coping to contact the Family Relationship Centres, Beyondblue, Mensline, Relationships Australia, Lifeline, Centacare, Anglicare and any of the community support programs listed on the CSA website,” Minister Hockey said.
CSA’s free information booklets and a range of other products and services to help and support separated parents are available via www.csa.gov.au or by phoning 1800 040 972.